What Holds Us Back?

What holds people back from working out?

Let’s talk about ourselves for a minute. Baby Boomers. It’s pretty well known that our generation went from the fittest ever to the flabbiest. We’re in worse shape now than our parents were at this age, and our parents didn’t often leave the couch.

Only 35% of us exercise on a regular basis. Check out this article from AARP for more on where we were back in the day and how we got where we are now.

The goal of BoomerMuscle is to help Baby Boomers build muscle in a way they can feel right away. Anyone who goes down the Boomer path can and should expect a transformation: from whatever state your muscles are in now to bigger and stronger than before. That goes for beginners and advanced. Whether you just want to be stronger and fitter or if you want to build up serious muscle, this program will help you get there.

So what holds you back?

There are plenty of academic studies out there that point to reasons why. Psychology Today once said the biggest reason was fear of discomfort. The idea that people naturally avoid anything that might cause discomfort, like: feeling sore, getting sweaty, breathing hard, etc.

That’s probably at the core of why most people avoid working out, especially muscle-building workouts. The BoomerMuscle Method is designed to make you feel a pump (some call it soreness). So if you’re super sensitive to something like and think of it as discomfort, you’d naturally struggle with a muscle-building workout.

Allow me to flesh out some other reasons. I’ve been at this for nearly 50 years now, and I still battle my own demons to stay on track. These are ones I struggle through each day.

It’s Boring

Ok. The idea of doing repetitions is the definition of repetitive. Got it. Think of it more like meditation that will literally give you a feel-good high as you go. Focus on the Mind/Muscle Connection.

Crank up music that lifts you up and takes your mind to a different place. Learn to love the muscle pump as you dig into those reps. Feel those endorphins kick in and enjoy the natural high.

It’s only boring if you fail to get into it. If you’re thinking about it being boring, you’re not grooving into the Mind/Muscle Connection.

Stop thinking.  Focus on the feeling.

I Don’t Have Time

We’re all too busy nowadays. And even when we’re idle, we’re staring at video screens large and small, occupying ourselves with Facebook and so on. It makes it seem like we’re on 24/7.

To fight this one, I’ve always relied on a realistic workout schedule and try to:

1. Limit each workout to 35 – 50 minutes.
2. Keep it to 4 Days per week

I’m Too Tired Today

This is a tough one. It’s very easy to convince yourself you need a break, so you grab a glass of wine on the couch with your spouse. Very easy at our house.

With this one, I remind myself that I will feel differently just a few minutes into the first set of exercises.

Working out causes you to breath harder, and the extra oxygen helps wake you up. And I will sometimes have a glass of iced coffee before I start for a little jolt of caffeine.

As you progress, your body releases feel good hormones, like endorphins, that literally make you feel good.

All of a sudden, you will realize you weren’t so tired in the first place.

Find Passion

It’s a choice, really. Do you want the idea of working out to feel like drudgery? Or do you want to feel a sense of passion about it?

Sounds like a dumb question. But think about it. 99% of your success at this or anything else is all in your head and heart. You can do anything you really desire to do.

And frankly, if you can’t get into a positive, passionate state of mind, you’re going to struggle.

Researchers have shown that passion is a core element for success in working out, especially for us Baby Boomers. Think about the great thing you are doing for yourself. Get jealous about giving yourself the time to do it. You are becoming stronger, better looking, happier and more confident. Those are things worth feeling passionate about.

What’s the Point?

This one comes up when you’re down on yourself, noticing all your physical flaws vs. the progress you’ve made. In my case, I’ve always had to battle the bulge. My body was designed to store stuff, not burn it up. So, if I’m down, I can easily start listing all my less than perfect parts.

Well, this a time to be tough on your whiny self. Time to Shut-up and just do it. Failing to workout will only make your flaws worse. Working out will only increase your strong points.

So just do it

For more: There are additional articles on this site about motivation. Check out the posts directly below.

Why I Hate Baby Boomers

“Why I hate baby boomers” is a declaration found frequently in blogs and other online essays these days, most of them written by our own kids — the dread and much maligned Millenials.

There are 75.4 million Millenials in the U.S., aged 19 – 35. And they have reasons to be angry at us.

According to Forbes, “The data is actually pretty scary: 44% of college grads in their 20s are stuck in low-wage, dead-end jobs, the highest rate in decades, and the number of young people making less than $25,000 has also spiked to the highest level since the 1990s.”

One of the big reasons given for this backup? Baby Boomers are not retiring but hanging onto to their jobs due to economic uncertainty. So, the millenials are pissed off and see us as the problem. Of course, we are also blamed for the way we raised them. They are the everybody-gets-a-trophy generation. They may indeed feel entitled, but we did raise them that way.

I am a Boomer

For the record, I don’t hate Baby Boomers. I am one. But I do find it alarming that so many millenials hate our generation. So, while this site is devoted to helping Baby Boomers build muscle as we age, I wanted to take a time out to try and understand this phenomenon.

We of the Baby Boom were born in the years following World War II and are now between the ages of 53 and 71 years old. Because we’re starting to die off, Millenials recently passed us as the largest generation in terms of sheer population.

Wikipedia sums us up this way: 

In Europe and North America, boomers are widely associated with privilege, as many grew up in a time of widespread government subsidies in post-war housing and education, and increasing affluence.^[3]

As a group, baby boomers were the wealthiest, most active, and most physically fit generation up to the era in which they arrived, and were amongst the first to grow up genuinely expecting the world to improve with time.^[4] They were also the generation that received peak levels of income; they could therefore reap the benefits of abundant levels of food, apparel, retirement programs, and sometimes even “midlife crisis” products. The increased consumerism for this generation has been regularly criticized as excessive.

Meanwhile, our kids, the Millenials face pretty much the opposite scenario. Many of them are choked with college debt they may never get rid of. They can’t purchase cars or houses and struggle to get by as the world around them changes dramatically.

In addition to political upheaval, technology relentlessly searches for ways to eliminate low-paying human jobs with alternatives, like drones delivering packages.

Many Millenials see little hope in their futures. And they’re really ticked off at us. One blogger stated they were waiting for us to start dying off and as we do: “Good luck changing your own f**ing bedpans.”

It all seems so strange

Our parents — The Greatest Generation — could do no wrong in some ways. You have to give them props for saving all of  humanity in World War II and all the selfless sacrifices they made doing it. 

Of course, like any crop of spoiled kids, we didn’t give them a pass. They were also extremely lame in many ways. They could not begin to grasp the expanding consciousness and enlightened genius of our generation. They were an army of Archie Bunkers, hopelessly out of it: Vietnam. Women’s Rights. Civil Rights.

Many of them went to college nearly free on the G.I. Bill and bought inexpensive houses with government aid. Jobs were plentiful as the world rebuilt and the rise of unions made it so even manual labor paid well enough that an uneducated person could own a home and raise a family.

We were the kids who reaped the benefits of all that. The world would be our oyster. We have enjoyed the highest levels of success and peak incomes. We were the most physically fit generation in history, at least at one time. We believe there are no limits that can hold us back.

And perhaps we’ve taken all those things for granted. Our kids desire the same things but apparently cannot get there in many cases regardless of how much education they finance or how hard they work.

So, it’s no surprise really when our own kids look at us and see our glaring flaws and get ticked off.  We at least had the advantage of opportunity and optimistic futures. The classic American Dream was attainable for us. We would be angry, too, if Hard Work and Education failed to realize opportunity.

I have no idea what to do about any of it. Except, perhaps to be a little more empathetic the next time an obviously over-qualified young person takes my order at a fast food place. They could have an advanced degree and a ton of ambition with nowhere to go.

What are your thoughts on this Generation Gap? Please leave a comment below or drop me a line: Brian@BoomerMuscle.com.